How To Tell If A Guy Likes You

Does He Like Me?

You’ve probably had the discussion with friends. You know the one I mean: “I like this guy… do you think he likes me?” Maybe certain things he says or does have led you to think he just might be into you. Or maybe the cutie you’re crushing on has left you clueless, so you’ve turned to hashing it out in your head and with your friends. How do you tell if the guy likes you?

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It’s a perfectly valid question. When you like a guy, you REALLY want to be liked back; but sometimes guys are just hard to read. Unfortunately, unless one of your friends has some inside information (or the guy comes right out and tells you) there’s no way to really know for sure.

The Body Language

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The good news is that scientists have found that men communicate way more with body language than with words. So if you can’t get your crush to fess up verbally, you might just get a good clue from the way he acts around you.

Does he stand a little straighter? Watch his reaction when you walk into a room. When he sees you, he might throw his shoulders back, and adopt a more “macho” stance. It’s a completely unconscious reaction, but you can take it as a good sign that he’s into you – and trying to impress you.

Does he point his body toward you? When a man is interested, he’ll keep his body facing the woman with whom he is interested. In fact, if a guy really likes you, he’ll rarely turn his back to you. He might even lean in closer to you when you’re sitting or standing together.

Does he unconsciously groom himself? If he straightens his tie or runs his hand through his hair whenever he sees you, it shows that he cares about what you think.

Does he mirror your behavior? A guy won’t do this consciously, but if you find him imitating your gestures when you’re hanging out together, it’s a good sign that he’s ultra-focused on you.

Does he touch you? If you find him reaching out to touch you on the hand or arm, to pat your back or stroke your shoulder, it’s a big giveaway that he’s interested.

The Verbal Cues

Fortunately, we don’t have to rely completely on body language to decipher a guy’s feelings. If he’s into you, he might just make it clear in other ways as well.

Does he call you? Most guys avoid talking on the phone, so if he goes out of his way to call, he really wants to talk to you.

Does he use your name often? Calling you by your name means he knows it and likes to say it.

Does he ask others about you? If he’s asking around, he knows that you might find out, but doesn’t mind showing that he’s interested.

Does he draw you out? When his questions go beyond generic small talk, take it as a good sign. Most guys aren’t big talkers, so when he starts asking questions, he really wants to know more about you.

How to tell if a guy likes you? While one of these gestures may not mean much, keep an eye on his body language and listen to his verbal cues. If he likes you, you’ll be able to pick up on it by the way he acts around you.

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12 Responses to How To Tell If A Guy Likes You

  1. Beth on January 1, 2013 at 1:12 pm

    Hi Abigail,

    There’s a guy I like and he does a LOT of the things you list here. The thing is, he sends all these signals (or at least it seems that way), but he hasn’t asked me out or made a move. Am I just imagining things? Is he into me but just too shy to ask me out? What should I do?

    • Abigail on January 3, 2013 at 8:42 pm

      Hi Beth,

      This is one of the reasons dating is so hard: things just aren’t black and white. In your case, it seems like he does like you, but perhaps he’s just too shy to make a move. It may even be that he’s hesitating because he doesn’t know how you feel.

      Cheer up though! It’s a modern world we live in, and you don’t have to wait around for him to make the first move. If he’s sending out all the right signals, but won’t go any further, maybe you’re just going to have to push things along. Take the plunge and ask him out!

  2. Amanda on March 20, 2013 at 4:09 pm

    Hi Beth,

    I was in the same situation a few months ago, I was waiting for him to make the move and he would´t do it. So I started giving more and more signals that I was interested in him. He finally realised and asked me out on a date. We are dating now and it is great! Be patient!, men are slow…

    • Abigail on March 21, 2013 at 11:30 pm

      Hi Amanda,

      Thanks for the feedback. And I agree, men can be slow, lol, but I’m sure you know, most girls complain the opposite. :)

      Abigail

  3. James Shaw on April 28, 2013 at 12:18 am

    Hi, Relationships requires time, dedication and patience, thanks for posting this great post.

    • Abigail on May 19, 2013 at 8:34 pm

      Hi James,

      Thanks for your feedback. From someone with a site about how to get your ex back, I take that as a compliment.

      All the best,

      Abigail

  4. Gabriel on May 23, 2013 at 1:40 am

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    • Abigail on May 23, 2013 at 10:04 am

      Hi Gabriel,

      Thanks for the visit and the feedback.

      Best,

      Abigail

  5. Kathrine on July 6, 2013 at 4:37 am

    hi im Kathrine
    Tonight i asked the guy i like if he wanted to talk and he said he dont need me.

    • Abigail on July 6, 2013 at 8:02 pm

      Hi Kathrine,

      Thank you for the visit and for the comment. I hope you find soon the guy who you want and who does need you.

      All the best,

      Abigail

  6. Jaime on February 10, 2014 at 4:43 am

    Okay so there’s this guy, his name is Adrien and he does a lot of the things that you listed. But the problem is the age difference. He’s way older than me. But he always tosses me hints that he’s interested. I don’t know what to think!!! Help?

    • Abigail on February 15, 2014 at 6:42 pm

      Hi Jaime,

      This is a hard question to answer via the internet without knowing the situation from a closer view. You don’t mention your age or the age difference for example. But what I can help you maybe is to tell you that just decide whether you want to go out with him or not, bottom line. Based on everything, how you feel about him, what people will say, what your parents will say, what YOU think. Just because he shows the signs that he wants to go out with you, doesn’t mean that you have to. Maybe take advice with your parents or someone else that knows you well, if the age difference is strange or unhealthy overall.

      Best of luck,

      Abigail